DRAMA

Some people flock towards it and some avoid it all costs. I personally have seen many people ruin their relationships, careers, friendships, and more by the lure of drama. I choose to move AWAY from drama. I like reality and normalcy cause I know it gives me my best chance for peak performance.

As I grow older and wiser I realize some truisms of this short tenure we have here called life. Getting to bed at 9pm makes a ton of sense. Getting up early and getting your body warmed up makes a ton of sense. Spreading goodness to everyone you can makes a ton of sense. Encouraging others to be their best makes a ton of sense. Realizing you will make mistakes and trying to learn from them makes a ton of sense.

Then there are things that don’t make sense: drinking yourself silly, taking drugs, talking shit about other people, being in the wrong place by choice at 1 in the morning, fighting, being in the middle of a dispute where you have nothing to gain by winning.

I think people who move towards drama are generally bored with their own personal existence and they need a “new game” in their life to play. Staying out of drama takes focus and work.

Avoiding drama takes will power. 

Building your future is tough and takes a full, concentrated effort. I can’t think of many things more rewarding than being the one to build that foundation, the one holding that responsibility.

And as I told my team at Hall Financial earlier this week, I can’t think of many things more rewarding than being on the front of this story we are building. It’s really fun and really rewarding. It gets me pumped to go to bed by 9pm, wake up early, and encourage others to invest in their own futures.

Choose to build yourself and your future. 

Don’t choose drama. Drama sucks.

D.Hall

One of life’s great questions…….If I work hard and earn it, do I deserve good things?

I think there is a fundamental basic principle of becoming successful that we need to identify in both the people we are leading and in the people we value.   Day in and day out.  Basic and important.

This is the core of it all and it’s important everyone can answer YES to the question at the root..   And it’s this.…….
“Do I deserve to have good things if I work hard to earn them?”

My goal is to make sure my future children are raised in a manner that they know this to be true.  That they realize they are deserving if they put in the work.  That they are representative of all that is good in the world and as such, they should “go for it” and “get it”.

But MANY have not been raised in such an environment.
Isn’t it crazy that some people don’t even think they are deserving of great things if they bust their ass?  The mind never gets to “how to” because it’s stuck in “I don’t”.
Getting people to build their own self-esteem is a very rewarding process.  And it all starts with helping people believe in themselves.

Helping people to believe in themselves and achieve more involves 3 big thoughts in my view:

1.  You deserve it and you better believe you do.

2.  I see something in you that you may not see in yourself.

3.  I enjoy recognizing your strengths because I believe you will succeed.

You let those 3 prevail, you’re in business.   Big time.

Fully feeling that you deserve to have great things if you put in the work is not a given with people in today’s world.  Many people have had to suffer through some bad wiring and poor mentorship prior to you leading them.   Recognize that some people have a tough time with this concept and it can take time.  Surprisingly some people fumble to respond to “Why should I choose you over the other guys/gals?”   I’m hoping that as good leaders, we teach people to speak well of themselves, have confidence and feel they DESERVE great things when they work at it.  And then go after them! They can’t just want to be chosen, they need to know they deserve to be chosen and they need to believe in themselves to get it done.

Believing in oneself is half the battle but what if they don’t believe in themselves?   They need LEADERSHIP.   Positivity.

First and foremost, make sure they know they deserve it.

That’s what you’d do for your own kids right?

DHall

Is this really what we’ve come to as a society? This is embarrassing.

What the hell is wrong with people?  I mean really.  We have kids (KIDS!) playing a game. And here we have adults threatening to kill referees?  I often tell people that there is very little in life you should be “embarrassed about”.  You hit a bad golf shot, who cares.  You called a girl the wrong name on the 2nd date, it happens.  Your potluck didn’t taste very good at the company party, such is life.  Then we look at these Kentucky folks, and it takes embarrassment to a whole new level.

I bet I’m killing you with anticipation and questions, so let’s get into it. Let’s give this story some context on just how bad it is and why I’m so outraged.
First, let’s recall a few other similar stories…

I’ll never forgive the city of Chicago for the deplorable and disgusting behavior towards Steve Bartman when he tried to catch a ball and the city blamed the Cubs’ loss on him.

How about the Boston fans that vilified Bill Buckner when he made an error?  That’s right, he made an error.  And many of the sick lunatics of the general public made it out to seem as if he had committed a felony.  Classy Boston fans at their finest!

But just when I thought that Boston and Chicago had topped the charts with ridiculously silly fans (not all, just those of you that participated in the madness) here comes the worst of them all.   Kentucky “fans”.  And I put it in quotes ‘cause these people need to get a grip. We have kids playing a game they love and these “fans” didn’t like the calls made by the refs.  So what do they do? Threaten to kill referees?  And ruin their businesses?  Seems normal.

Sick, sick, sick people.  Really.  Get a grip and grow up.

And what’s this all about?  It’s all about a frickin’ game.  A game.  Not life or death.  Not my friend with cancer.  Nobody committed a heinous crime against them.  We’re simply talking about a game!

I think if they find the people that are doing this, they should haul their parents into a court or jurisdiction of some sort, and tell them they did a really poor job raising their children…and make them promise to never have any more.  Because if my future children act like this, it will be the low point of my life and I will have failed.

Read on and try to internalize how crazy this is.  I mean this is really, really crazy that grown people act like this.  This 21st century mob mentality social media insanity is for lunatics and we need to realize this is not how we should conduct ourselves as human beings.  If we were animals, maybe.  And I mean maybe.

Let’s get a hold of ourselves people.  These are games played by kids.  Let’s lead by example for a better future, not be an embarrassment to the human race.

D.Hall

Hundreds of Kentucky fans’ threats against ref under investigation-
http://www.thescore.com/news/1272766

Interestingly, I also came across this article that made me think there is hope for humanity!!
http://www.mercurynews.com/2017/04/05/leadership-habits-a-priority-at-sunnyvale-elementary-school/

My man Nick Saban is at it again.

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Just when I thought he had impressed me to the max and couldn’t do more…….he tells his Offensive Coordinator to take a hike 7 days before the biggest game of his team’s season.  Yep, Coach Saban made a stand.  No one really knows what went on behind the scenes but it was clearly ugly.  Not sure there has ever been a dismissal of a more important figure prior to a Championship game in the history of football ever.

Let’s be honest……how many of you would be willing to get rid of the most talented person on your staff/team/organization 7 days before the biggest test/presentation/game/exam of your year?  The answer is 0.  ZERO.  No one would.  That’s why it’s so great.

So it was sort of interesting when Coach Saban came on SportsCener/Game Day January 2 and told the nation it was a “mutual decision”.   Was he kidding us?   Anyone believe that?    No one at Chatter did.  Not even close.

Not very hard to deduce that Coach Saban was not happy with the lackluster performance of his offense in their 24-7 less than compelling victory over Washington…..and when he let that be known…….some stuff must have hit the fan hard.  Real hard.

It will be so interesting to see how they play tomorrow night.  National Championship game in prime time and the coach that has been coaching the offense all year won’t be there.  Can Coach Saban rally the troops and can the new back up guy step in and not miss a beat?  Will be fascinating to see.  It’s the ultimate in reality TV.

So what’s the lesson this week?  Well, we got a few………….

1.  Have the guts to do what’s hard.
2.  When you’ve won uber amounts of championships, people won’t question you.  Getting to that point is really hard.  Most aren’t there or ever will be.
3.  If Nick were a rookie coach, everyone in the world would be thinking this guy was nuts and this move could cost him his job.

Sometimes where you stand, depends on where you sit.  And Nick Saban sits very comfortably.

Roll Tide.

D.Hall

santa-baby

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to everyone!
This holiday edition of Chatter is short and sweet.

Great conversation with my Pops last week discussing a variety of nonsensical issues.  Somehow it led to what I’ll call my Christmas gift to all of you. My very wise father and I arrived at an important life conclusion and I want to share it.

So here it is…

The best way to achieve “true happiness” (very elusive for most) is to focus your time on setting up all of the people that you love to succeed. And then you really enjoy it when they do and you celebrate it with them. 

Think about how grateful you are and how much you “give” to those who give a lot to you.

You want to improve your mood and your relationships with others? Well I just gave you the Holy Grail.

Happy Holidays!

D.Hall

Secret Sauce – A Philosophical Compass

Success

 

Just a few thoughts on what I think is required to be part of and lead a GREAT team…

1. Be a GREAT listener and let curiosity rule you.

2. Don’t stay on the surface – go deeper. Get to the root of the issue.

3. Be brave and identify the “elephant in the room” that no one wants to talk about.

4. Affect the THINKING of the most people that you can.

5. If it doesn’t have an owner, don’t waste your time on it.

6. Don’t let separate issues confuse the main issue.

7. Empower other people – showing team members that they’re making a difference is arguably the most critical aspect of empowerment. People want to know they’re moving towards their goal.

8. Set the right tone. Everything you say matters – EVERYTHING MATTERS!

9. Make things crystal clear with no vagueness.

10. Care about your teammate’s success. Care because caring validates effort!

Is your grass green?

Green Grass

My cashier last night at the grocery store…

Sometimes it’s easy to question if you are in the right place in the world.  Your mind plays tricks on you.  Just when you start to think the grass may be greener somewhere else, you need to realize that the grass is ONLY GREEN WHERE YOU WATER IT!
Here is the exchange……………..

Her: “How are you?”

Me: “Good, you?”

Her: “I’ll be better in ohhh 2 hours”

Me: “Why is that?”

Her: “I have to miss the beginning of The Voice…they asked me if I wanted to work OT and I said nope…it’s the girls fault who no call no showed…6 days a week is enough for me”

Me: “If you work OT you can afford a DVR and never have to miss a moment of The Voice….Boom”

Sometimes people have these opportunities right in front of them and don’t realize that if they just worked a little harder, they could have what they want.  Naturally as they reach the next point they will want something else and can use the same formula.  We are all capable of getting to where we want to go, it all depends on who’s willing to put in the REAL work to get there or not.

My 4 Rules

Team

 

These are my top 4 rules that I had written down from a while ago on how to CREATE a great team.  Wanted to share. You probably already have your own……..as to how you run your own teams.  If you have some would love to see them in the comments below.   I think that these 4 allowed me to help grow people.  I subconsciously try to do a lot of them everyday……….

1.  Create a community where people drive 94 miles an hour to work and don’t want to leave.
2.  Make sure people know that you care about them a lot personally and professionally.  Like I mean CARE ABOUT THEM A LOT!!
3.  Push people hard.  Really hard. Have a vision for them at way higher levels then they have for themselves.  Really get them out of their box and don’t let them get comfortable.  They can do way more.  Believe that.  If you don’t, there is no way that they will.  You are the leader.  Show it.  EVERY DAY.
4.  Inspire them like no other.  Get them pumped up.  Jazzed.  Energized.  Lots of people are walking thru life half asleep.  WAKE EM UP.  Catch them doing lots of things right.  LOTS OF THINGS.  People love love love love attention, feedback, and to have someone else give a crap about them as a human being.  Most don’t.  Especially notice small stuff.  What they wear, something funny they did.  And make it so motivational in the workplace that they can’t wait for you to come around the corner and tell them the next bananas thing you just thought of.

T E A M

team

Developing a Stronger Team: 

1.  Create a community where people drive 94 miles an hour to work and don’t want to leave.


2.  Make sure people know that we care about them a lot personally and professionally.  Like I mean CARE ABOUT THEM A LOT.

3.  Push people hard.  Really hard. Have a vision for them to way higher levels then they have for themselves.  Really get them out of their box and don’t let them get comfortable.  They can do way more.  Believe that.  If you don’t, there is no way that they will.  You are the leader.  Show it.  Every day.

4.  Inspire people!  Get them pumped up.  Jazzed.  Energized.  Lots of people are walking through life half asleep.  WAKE EM UP.  Catch them doing lots of things right.  LOTS OF THINGS.  People love love love love attention, feedback, and to have someone else give a crap about them as a human being.  Most don’t.  Especially notice the “small stuff.”  What they wear, something funny they did.  And make it so motivational in the workplace that they can’t wait for you to come around the corner and tell them the next bananas thing you just thought of!