Always Remembered, Never Forgotten!

We are keeping it short and sweet this week at Chatter. Let’s take today to honor and remember our servicemen and women, who have so bravely fought to protect this country. In showing some gratitude to those who have put their lives on the line and made the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom, we say THANK YOU!

As you gather with friends and family, while indulging in some BBQ, remember the real purpose of this incredibly important holiday.

Happy Memorial Day & Happy Sunday!

DHall

Listen To Your Own Strutting Music And Strut All Day Long

As I approach 49 one thing is probably more clear to me than anything else….most people don’t know shit.

As kids we are taught to listen to adults. As young adults we are supposed to be paying close attention and be respectful to our elders. And then one day you’re in between 48 and 49 and you’re realizing how much poor advice you received along the way from small thinkers who were being safe when that isn’t at all what you were trying to do.

So I say forget that.

Turn your OWN thoughts UP in your head if you are trying to be exceptional. And revel in them. And love them. And commit to them. Especially if they are BIG!! The bigger the thinker you are, the more this blog applies to you. If you are thinking safe and small and you’re not sure, get advice. If you are thinking gigantic and big, you are more on your own. Why? Cause 97.6% of people are thinking way smaller than you my friend.

My buddy told me one day this winter to “listen to your strutting music all day long. And strut to that music”. When he said that to me it set my brain on fire. He was right. And he didn’t mean it in the way I’m describing here, but I’m not sure there is a better way to think than that.

If you’re focused on becoming great/kicking ass/chasing exceptional….you can’t listen to much of what others tell you. Cause most aren’t.  And they don’t get it. They’re holding on tight to “good enough” and praying every night it is.

So I say forget them.

Listen to YOUR music. It’s your best shot at greatness.

Have a great Sunday.

DHall

Throwback Mother’s Day Blog… Mother’s Day is Legit

This week on Chatter, we thought we would go with a throwback blog. This one got some nice acclaim a few years ago so we are re-releasing it. There’s some good stuff in here!

Also happy birthday to my baby brother, born on Mother’s Day four and a half decades ago.

Enjoy and Happy Mother’s Day!!

In the Hall household growing up, May was a big month. My brother was born in May. Mother’s Day is in May. In fact, my momma’s-boy brother was born in 1974 on Mother’s Day!!  What a gift!!

One thing I learned more than anything from my mom………moms like cool things.  They like cool lingo.  They want to be a part of the action.  They don’t like being left out.  People used to ask my mom why she watched so much Sports Center and she would reply “with a house full of boys I don’t like being left out of the conversation.”  That pretty much sums up how cool my mom was in general.

Moms also like controversy.  Controversy can be fun.  I falsely accused my mom when I was 14 years old in a moment of weakness of “shrinking my laundry on purpose”.  Yea I actually said that to her.  She thought I was nuts for sure…and she also thought it was funny.  It made me feel better when I later apologized for “wrongly accusing her”.  She asked me if I knew I was nuts.  I didn’t realize it at 14.

Of all the holidays, Mother’s Day is the best and most important.   Moms matter. A lot. (Remember my blog about birthdays and how we should really be celebrating your mother instead of you?) They do stuff that really amazes me. I can make a list but I won’t. Actually what the hell, I will.

1.They tell you what you want to hear, at the exact moment you need to hear it.
2. When you make big mistakes, they seem to understand the most that we are human.
3. When good things happen they are by far the most proud.
4. If things are really messed up and you need help, mom is always the go-to.
5. If you feel like all is lost, mom will tell you that it’s not…..and somehow she knows the right answer.

My dad used to tell me “if you bring your mother a stick and tell her it’s a gift she will love it”. Mom’s love is probably as unconditional as it gets. She knows your flaws. She defends you to the end. She has your back unwaveringly.

So today is the day to call all moms in the world just to say “you are the bomb” (or whatever cool thing you want to say).

May is a month that moms should be celebrated.  My mom passed away 6 years and 5 days ago…In May.  May is always Mom’s month in my heart.
Hug all moms today.  It’s not the right thing to do, it’s the only thing to do.

D.Hall

A Little Tiny Punch In The Face

How easy is it to get lost when you are in pursuit of your goals? Very! Distractions are everywhere. Human beings are flawed. Other things come up. Doing big things take constant effort and consideration. It is not easy.

That’s where a tiny punch to the face is helpful. Do you have a mentor/friend that tells you things you don’t want to hear? Well in my experience to be great, we all need one. Someone to point out important things we need to take note of that we might be missing. It opens your eyes to what’s really happening and where you might be falling short.

I especially think this is important for younger people. Confidence is a precious thing and so is reality…the mix is tough. I’ve always felt from my discussions with super high achievers, that it is better to “believe what is helpful, over what is true”. So that’s the confidence part. The reality part is you prancing through your days being mediocre, thinking mediocre stuff and telling everyone how bad ass you are. Not a successful mix.  It’s helpful for us all to have someone to check us and say, “Dude you aren’t bad ass in the slightest.” That’s a tough thing to hear. Which is often replied to with “what do you mean?” … “What do I mean? You’re up half the night, your eating habits suck, you’ve been doing the same production 3 months in a row, you aren’t taking care of yourself or your goals and you are capable of so much more”.

Things that are tough to hear are often the things we need the most. Love comes in many forms and it can be argued that the “tough” love has the greatest impact.

Just a little punch in the face will do you some good now and then.

Have a great Sunday.

DHall