Throwback Mother’s Day Blog… Mother’s Day is Legit

This week on Chatter, we thought we would go with a throwback blog. This one got some nice acclaim a few years ago so we are re-releasing it. There’s some good stuff in here!

Also happy birthday to my baby brother, born on Mother’s Day four and a half decades ago.

Enjoy and Happy Mother’s Day!!

In the Hall household growing up, May was a big month. My brother was born in May. Mother’s Day is in May. In fact, my momma’s-boy brother was born in 1974 on Mother’s Day!!  What a gift!!

One thing I learned more than anything from my mom………moms like cool things.  They like cool lingo.  They want to be a part of the action.  They don’t like being left out.  People used to ask my mom why she watched so much Sports Center and she would reply “with a house full of boys I don’t like being left out of the conversation.”  That pretty much sums up how cool my mom was in general.

Moms also like controversy.  Controversy can be fun.  I falsely accused my mom when I was 14 years old in a moment of weakness of “shrinking my laundry on purpose”.  Yea I actually said that to her.  She thought I was nuts for sure…and she also thought it was funny.  It made me feel better when I later apologized for “wrongly accusing her”.  She asked me if I knew I was nuts.  I didn’t realize it at 14.

Of all the holidays, Mother’s Day is the best and most important.   Moms matter. A lot. (Remember my blog about birthdays and how we should really be celebrating your mother instead of you?) They do stuff that really amazes me. I can make a list but I won’t. Actually what the hell, I will.

1.They tell you what you want to hear, at the exact moment you need to hear it.
2. When you make big mistakes, they seem to understand the most that we are human.
3. When good things happen they are by far the most proud.
4. If things are really messed up and you need help, mom is always the go-to.
5. If you feel like all is lost, mom will tell you that it’s not…..and somehow she knows the right answer.

My dad used to tell me “if you bring your mother a stick and tell her it’s a gift she will love it”. Mom’s love is probably as unconditional as it gets. She knows your flaws. She defends you to the end. She has your back unwaveringly.

So today is the day to call all moms in the world just to say “you are the bomb” (or whatever cool thing you want to say).

May is a month that moms should be celebrated.  My mom passed away 6 years and 5 days ago…In May.  May is always Mom’s month in my heart.
Hug all moms today.  It’s not the right thing to do, it’s the only thing to do.

D.Hall

A Little Tiny Punch In The Face

How easy is it to get lost when you are in pursuit of your goals? Very! Distractions are everywhere. Human beings are flawed. Other things come up. Doing big things take constant effort and consideration. It is not easy.

That’s where a tiny punch to the face is helpful. Do you have a mentor/friend that tells you things you don’t want to hear? Well in my experience to be great, we all need one. Someone to point out important things we need to take note of that we might be missing. It opens your eyes to what’s really happening and where you might be falling short.

I especially think this is important for younger people. Confidence is a precious thing and so is reality…the mix is tough. I’ve always felt from my discussions with super high achievers, that it is better to “believe what is helpful, over what is true”. So that’s the confidence part. The reality part is you prancing through your days being mediocre, thinking mediocre stuff and telling everyone how bad ass you are. Not a successful mix.  It’s helpful for us all to have someone to check us and say, “Dude you aren’t bad ass in the slightest.” That’s a tough thing to hear. Which is often replied to with “what do you mean?” … “What do I mean? You’re up half the night, your eating habits suck, you’ve been doing the same production 3 months in a row, you aren’t taking care of yourself or your goals and you are capable of so much more”.

Things that are tough to hear are often the things we need the most. Love comes in many forms and it can be argued that the “tough” love has the greatest impact.

Just a little punch in the face will do you some good now and then.

Have a great Sunday.

DHall