At UWM we like to call things that are challenging or need improvement an “opportunity”. Again, this may sound like semantics, but it is so much bigger than that. My emergency dentist appointment this morning? I couldn’t get in as early as I wanted, so I had some down time. My mom is in town from Ohio and she was with me, so we decided to go to Panera and get coffee to kill time before I could go to the dentist. I can’t remember the last time I got to go for coffee with my mom. I felt so grateful for this opportunity. We got to unwind for a minute and just chat. This wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t need to go see the dentist, and if my appointment wasn’t delayed.
I was really practicing my not complaining, and at the end of the day I got to check in with my husband and even though it was a seemingly rough day, I didn’t feel depleted. I had energy left to talk and check in.
Challenging things that come our way truly are an opportunity. It’s a chance for us to get better. If not for that challenge or obstacle, when else would we have that unique opportunity for joy and growth? One of my favorite quotes of all time is from the movie Evan Almighty. In the scene the wife is going through a hard time with her husband and she is venting to her waiter about it (who is God). And the waiter said to her “If someone prays for patience, you think God gives them patience? Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient? If he prayed for courage, does God give him courage, or does he give him opportunities to be courageous?”
We have so many goals and aspirations and so many things that we want out of life, and we think challenges that come up are obstacles in our way, but they are the exact opposite. They are opportunities to work that muscle we are building, whatever it may be. So today I challenge you to look at every obstacle and challenge as an opportunity to make your stronger and reach your goals.
Happy Sunday: I hope you enjoyed reading our final post from our guest blogger, Danielle DeAngelis. Danielle is a team member at United Wholesale Mortgage, and over the last month, she has been sharing outstanding post on Chatter in The Hall.
I wanted to personally say thank you to Danielle for contributing such amazing entries!
Happy Sunday: I hope you enjoy reading another extraordinary post from our guest blogger, Danielle DeAngelis. Danielle is a team member at United Wholesale Mortgage and has been sharing her “complaint- free challenge” journey with us on Chatter in The Hall. She has some great words of encouragement about pushing past failure… keep reading!
Today’s Thought: Failure
Let’s talk about juggling. If you were interested in taking up juggling as a hobby and you bought yourself a starter kit, you might notice that the kit comes with juggling bean bags, not juggling balls, and there is a reason for this. The reason is, if you are going to take up juggling, you better prepare to drop the bags from time to time! No one takes up juggling and is automatically an expert at it. It takes practice, resilience, and the willingness to fail, and then try again. We have a bad tendency to quit things that we are not automatically good at. We take up exercise and quit shortly after. We take on a new daily ritual like yoga or meditation or packing a lunch, and we quickly give up. The problem is not failing, the problem is giving up. In fact, failure is our best teacher because it teaches us the ways that we could do better next time. But we can’t utilize this gift unless we try again¸ and continue to try and try and try until we are finally a natural at the thing we are trying to accomplish.
Likewise, you may feel like you are not good at this complaint-free thing. Maybe you haven’t made it a single day without complaining. Maybe you were like me and you forgot your bracelet when you left for work this morning. Maybe you are doing really well with not complaining, but when you get around a certain family member, friend or co-worker you just CAN’T resist, and you dive right into a complaining competition. Whatever way you might feel like you are “failing”, acknowledge it, learn from it, and then navigate a way to overcome it. Try again.
DHall Here: Danielle challenged her team to go 21 business days without complaining, which I think is awesome! After seeing some of the remarkable stuff she was sending out to her team, I knew I had to share with you!
Come back next week for another awesome post!