This weekend marks a year of me being married. Really and truly never thought I would type the words “me” and “married” in the same sentence. Just never really made sense to me. Then things changed and man do I have it good. I mean really good. Sort of crazy, actually. I’m not sure that “jackpot” is strong enough to describe my current status.
Ok, let’s quickly switch gears.
I was at the airport recently and observed this lady screaming at the top of her lungs at her husband. I am talking full meltdown here and with a crowd. This was a “I gotta stop and watch this train wreck” kind of situation and I’m the guy who thinks that people who slow down on the freeway to see what happened have nothing better to do with their lives. I never slow down. Ever. But I couldn’t help myself here. This was a true “til death do us part” deal breaker yelling scene.
Now at this point some of my key instincts kicked in. How do I help her? How do I help him? Do I somehow make a joke about “cultivating a great relationship”………….nah probably a bad idea at this point. Even I know that.
All I could imagine is how brutal this must be. Don’t think you can get to an episode like this and have it be a one-off. Can you? I don’t think so. I also started thinking about how much alcohol or foreign substances need to be consumed in this household to keep things from rambling out of control. Yea, alcohol is definitely a logical explanation.
I believe in the human race and mankind…..but it goes down fractionally every time I see episodes like these……….it’s really sort of crazy. Only second to people whose cars are a complete mess—hard for me to imagine.
So, what’s the moral of all this mess? I need to get my wife a nice gift. She needs to know that I really respect her and appreciate the fact that she loves me in an A+ over the top way. Makes me feel very good.
Basically, I need her to know that I realize I hit the jackpot.
Thanks airport lady.
As we meander our way through life, we have many thoughts that consume us. Some that worry us. Some we stress over. Some are accurate. MANY are inaccurate……….so how do we stop caring about these things that trouble us?
Most of the these thoughts that involve the BIG 3 (see below) are INACCURATE. The less you think about them, the better off, more at ease, and more stress free you will be.
AWARENESS of these 3 as they cross your mind are important.
- Your employer doesn’t care about you that much. Doesn’t mean it’s not a good place to work………just don’t get too wound up in what they think. One of the reasons I feel I have had some success in leading people is that I actually do care about them. I never realized this in my 20’s and 30’s but as I get older and get to know other owners………they don’t really care about their employees that much which is why working for them sucks. 90% of employers are filling a spot. You are in that spot……….unless you are REALLY VALUABLE or you work for the very rare employer who REALLY VALUES people. 3 days after you leave, no one will talk about you. So either find a 1 out of 10 or don’t worry that much if they don’t seem to be in love with you. It doesn’t matter to them. Hard truth: you don’t matter to them.
- Most of the drama that surrounds your life by your family and friends has nothing to do with anything that can help you and they are basically filling time for themselves and including you in it. In other words…….most people have very little to do so they kill time by creating a dramatic game in their life to interest them. You are a pawn in it. Get out!! Stop getting involved with drama and wasting your time. Focus on productive issues that make you better. Stop being a sucker.
- People you run into who annoy you that you will never see again are not worth getting annoyed over. Most service people suck—valet, servers, cashiers. You can’t blame them; they encounter some angry people throughout the day and most feel like their bosses don’t care about them much. They’re in a position where they’re replaceable. The problem is we have to deal with them. Try to change the narrative if you can. Spend time appreciating their service and if they’re doing something wrong, give them feedback. Be the customer who thanks them for their service.
If you don’t understand this blog, you probably are a working stiff, with a lot of drama in your life, and you put up with a lot of shitty service!!