I think there is a fundamental basic principle of becoming successful that we need to identify in both the people we are leading and in the people we value. Day in and day out. Basic and important.
This is the core of it all and it’s important everyone can answer YES to the question at the root.. And it’s this.…….
“Do I deserve to have good things if I work hard to earn them?”
My goal is to make sure my future children are raised in a manner that they know this to be true. That they realize they are deserving if they put in the work. That they are representative of all that is good in the world and as such, they should “go for it” and “get it”.
But MANY have not been raised in such an environment.
Isn’t it crazy that some people don’t even think they are deserving of great things if they bust their ass? The mind never gets to “how to” because it’s stuck in “I don’t”.
Getting people to build their own self-esteem is a very rewarding process. And it all starts with helping people believe in themselves.
Helping people to believe in themselves and achieve more involves 3 big thoughts in my view:
1. You deserve it and you better believe you do.
2. I see something in you that you may not see in yourself.
3. I enjoy recognizing your strengths because I believe you will succeed.
You let those 3 prevail, you’re in business. Big time.
Fully feeling that you deserve to have great things if you put in the work is not a given with people in today’s world. Many people have had to suffer through some bad wiring and poor mentorship prior to you leading them. Recognize that some people have a tough time with this concept and it can take time. Surprisingly some people fumble to respond to “Why should I choose you over the other guys/gals?” I’m hoping that as good leaders, we teach people to speak well of themselves, have confidence and feel they DESERVE great things when they work at it. And then go after them! They can’t just want to be chosen, they need to know they deserve to be chosen and they need to believe in themselves to get it done.
Believing in oneself is half the battle but what if they don’t believe in themselves? They need LEADERSHIP. Positivity.
First and foremost, make sure they know they deserve it.
That’s what you’d do for your own kids right?