|This week is a bit of a rant. Three of my latest observations include things you don’t want to do and areas in your mind you don’t want to live. These may seem harsh but they do exist in the physical world and if you have experienced them, you feel the same way I do….and we need to tell these people to stop. If you don’t recognize these immediately by thinking “Oh yeah, Bob does that all the time” then you either 1. Have a very low level of awareness….or 2. You maybe do it yourself because how else could you be unaware of it (and why is no one telling you?).
I’m confident you’ll think of at least one person as you read my three observations below. 2 and 3 are tough to call people out on and 1 is just flat out funny as hell. Here we go……
1. You have trouble coping. As children we learn “coping mechanisms” when we don’t get what we want. Oh you wanted to stay up late? No dice….you cry…….you learn….you slow down on that behavior in the future……for most…….some have no coping mechanisms. Now typically I don’t advocate hanging with people with “negative traits”……but watching your buddies that have no coping mechanisms when things go wrong on the golf course, in the restaurant, when someone takes their parking spot……well that’s just flat out really frickin funny.
2. You project all of your issues on to everyone else. I call it the “spit your crap on me” syndrome. Your marriage sucks so that means my marriage will suck. You have trouble under pressure so that means no one can come through under pressure. All of your focus is on how old you are and all the things you can’t accomplish because you aren’t 21 years old anymore. So now you are gonna tell me all the things I can’t do. Give it up people. You are ruining any hope or optimism that those around you have. In fact I have a hint for you here. Go opposite. Encourage everyone. Stop telling everyone that because you don’t know how to have a relationship that that means that all relationships are like yours. They aren’t. You just aren’t very good at it and you want everyone else to not be good at it too. Or you think its impossible and hopeless for all because of your situation. Please stop.
3. Bondage of self. You know these people that constantly “bring it back to themselves” like a boomerang. It’s totally impossible for them to have a conversation with you without constantly using the words “I” or “me”. ”Hey Bob, I had a real good lunch at Long Lake and Woodward the other day with Tommy talking about his back issues…” Interrupting Bondage Bob doesn’t let you finish your sentence and replies “I (fill in the blank about something he did at Long Lake and Woodward)” that has nothing to do with what I’m talking about…”Yea I was at Long Lake and Woodward last week for a meeting”……why do I care that you were at Long Lake and Woodward and it’s so nonsensical?………..or even better………they talk constantly about themselves and NEVER take an interest in you. I kind of like these people in a weird way…… because I don’t have to ask them any questions……they are gonna tell me all about themselves……but after about 11 minutes this gets very old and I find myself on the other side of the fairway talking with my caddie rather than spending a lot of time with Bob.
Key takeaway this week……..I can deal with you acting like a complete fool….just stop telling me about yourself constantly, and all the things I can’t do because you didn’t.