You’re totally into yourself, you say ridiculous things that make you look foolish, and you might be funny as hell


This week is a bit of a rant.  Three of my latest observations include things you don’t want to do and areas in your mind you don’t want to live.  These may seem harsh but they do exist in the physical world and if you have experienced them, you feel the same way I do….and we need to tell these people to stop.   If you don’t recognize these immediately by thinking “Oh yeah, Bob does that all the time” then you either 1.  Have a very low level of awareness….or 2.  You maybe do it yourself because how else could you be unaware of it (and why is no one telling you?).

I’m confident you’ll think of at least one person as you read my three observations below. 2 and 3 are tough to call people out on and 1 is just flat out funny as hell.  Here we go……

1.      You have trouble coping.  As children we learn “coping mechanisms” when we don’t get what we want.  Oh you wanted to stay up late?  No dice….you cry…….you learn….you slow down on that behavior in the future……for most…….some have no coping mechanisms.  Now typically I don’t advocate hanging with people with “negative traits”……but watching your buddies that have no coping mechanisms when things go wrong on the golf course, in the restaurant, when someone takes their parking spot……well that’s just flat out really frickin funny.

2.      You project all of your issues on to everyone else.  I call it the “spit your crap on me” syndrome.  Your marriage sucks so that means my marriage will suck.  You have trouble under pressure so that means no one can come through under pressure.  All of your focus is on how old you are and all the things you can’t accomplish because you aren’t 21 years old anymore. So now you are gonna tell me all the things I can’t do.  Give it up people.  You are ruining any hope or optimism that those around you have.  In fact I have a hint for you here.  Go opposite.  Encourage everyone.  Stop telling everyone that because you don’t know how to have a relationship that that means that all relationships are like yours.  They aren’t.  You just aren’t very good at it and you want everyone else to not be good at it too. Or you think its impossible and hopeless for all because of your situation.  Please stop.

3.     Bondage of self.  You know these people that constantly “bring it back to themselves” like a boomerang. It’s totally impossible for them to have a conversation with you without constantly using the words “I” or “me”. ”Hey Bob, I had a real good lunch at Long Lake and Woodward the other day with Tommy talking about his back issues…”  Interrupting Bondage Bob doesn’t let you finish your sentence and replies “I (fill in the blank about something he did at Long Lake and Woodward)” that has nothing to do with what I’m talking about…”Yea I was at Long Lake and Woodward last week for a meeting”……why do I care that you were at Long Lake and Woodward and it’s so nonsensical?………..or even better………they talk constantly about themselves and NEVER take an interest in you.  I kind of like these people in a weird way…… because I don’t have to ask them any questions……they are gonna tell me all about themselves……but after about 11 minutes this gets very old and I find myself on the other side of the fairway talking with my caddie rather than spending a lot of time with Bob.

Key takeaway this week……..I can deal with you acting like a complete fool….just stop telling me about yourself constantly, and all the things I can’t do because you didn’t.

Happy Sunday!!



Father’s Day, Nostalgia, and US Open Sunday 


What a day today is going to be.  First, Happy Father’s Day to all the Dad’s out there.  My Dad doesn’t get anything cause when you have sons like Jason and I, every day is pretty much Father’s Day.  I actually told my dad 26 years ago that I SHOULD BE GETTING THE FATHER’S DAY GIFTS FROM HIM for making his job so EASY.  He is still cracking up about that one.    Have a fun day today Dad.

Ok on to this week’s message…….a little all over the place but there has been a lot going on.  Top 4 things I’ve observed the last couple weeks and things I’m looking forward to:

1.  Tonight’s Game 7 between Golden State and Cleveland.  Could go down as a historic game in NBA history.  Wouldn’t it be fun for Steph Curry to have a 3 point shot with 1 second to go, down by 2 points?  I’m rooting for a great game.

2.   Muhammad Ali is gone but never forgotten.  What a life.  This guy stood up for what he thought was right and a charisma and energy that was historic.  A lot of people say “there will never be another like Ali”……and while I like to pay homage as much as the next guy………there probably will be……..but he was unique…..I love a guy that in the same sentence says “I’m pretty and I’m a bad man”.  Loved this guy.

3.   Gordie Howe passed away.  One of the top 2 hockey players of all time and one of the favorites of the city of Detroit.  What a legend.

4.   Today is the final round of the US Open… exciting.  Fox’s coverage is so brutal I will probably have the sound down, but man it would be cool to see Dustin, Sergio and a no name come to the last hole all tied up.  What a blast that would be to watch.

So what’s this week’s takeaway?  Things that are UNUSUAL are the things that we love the most in life.    These are the things that get us “jazzed up”.  Trying to be like everyone else and “fitting in” sucks.  Let’s stop teaching people to fit in.

Muhammad Ali didn’t fit in.  Gordie Howe didn’t fit in.  Steph Curry doesn’t fit in.  The winner of the US Open won’t fit in.  All with superior work ethic and a dedication to something that is HIGHLY UNUSUAL.

To be unusual (in a good way) requires an unusual devotion and talent.  To be exceptional and noteworthy requires a work ethic that no one else you know has.   You too can be the exception to all sameness if you are willing to give what few others are willing to give.  Not for everyone but belief in self is the biggest part of accomplishing big things.

You want to be like everyone else?  Or do you want to be different?

My dad taught me that.  I guess he did give me the gift.

Happy Father’s Day.


Evesdropping On A Little Cafeteria Conversation


“Have a good weekend?”

“I did absolutely nothing.”

“Now that’s a damn good weekend right there.”

This is a joke right?  Nope, these are real conversations.  I didn’t make this up just so I had something to blog about this week………I actually heard it at the table 2 over from me and there goes my curious mind again………what?  Yep.

And this is another installment of “why the world is a very dangerous place without great leadership” and why “if you are a great leader you are going to be in great shape ‘cause people need you”.

I am worried about my loved ones and people I care about being around this type of conversation.  It can pollute your mind at a very young age.  Luckily if you get old like me, you know better.  And therein lies the lesson…..

If you are below the age of 30 or you know people below the age of 30 please push yourself and them to live by these 3 golden rules:

  1. Every single day of your life including Sunday should involve you doing at least 3 productive things. Make sure of it.
  1. Only surround yourself with people that are more productive than you because it will LIFT your own game.
  1. Do not under any circumstances CONFORM to anything that feels like “average” or “normal”. You are way better off being an outrageous outcast than someone that “fits in”.  “Fitting in” sucks.

Short and sweet.  Happy Sunday.

And make today PRODUCTIVE.



There is only one thing to do between 8pm and 830pm

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I got some advice a long time ago, and it might be some of the best I have ever gotten.  It has served me well for a long time. There are certain times in the day to do certain things.
You learn this over time.  Brush your teeth 3 times a day.  Eat lunch at noon.  Go to the gym at 630am etc. etc.  These are some of the basics.

Here are THE 2 BIGGIES……..advanced lessons on timing that I have learned over the years………These unique mindsets (when taken to a new level) will serve you very well…… is confidence and one is paranoia.

​1.  Spend your time between 6am and 630am thinking about all the things you need to do to get better… have the whole day to get them done.  “Freaking yourself out” in the morning is one of the most impactful things you can do.  You give yourself a chance to do something about it.  You need to write it down daily in your PARANOIA JOURNAL.

​ 2. ​ Spend 8pm to 830pm only think of how kick ass you are.  For the most part the day is done, you are tired physically and mentally.  And there isn’t a lot you can do about any problems you might be experiencing.  So spend your time in positive thoughts about you and all the goodness you bring to the world.  You are a force for good and you have probably done way more good than you give yourself credit for.    You need to write it down daily in your CONFIDENCE JOURNAL.

Two Journals.  One person.  Lots of great results.  All from thinking about things at the RIGHT TIME!!!

Don’t believe what is true, believe what is helpful.