Mother’s Day is Legit Legit.

Moms Are Superheroes.

In the Hall household growing up, May was a big month. My brother was born in May. Mother’s Day is in May. In fact, my momma’s-boy brother was born in 1974 on Mother’s Day!!  What a gift!!

One thing I learned more than anything from my mom………moms like cool things.  They like cool lingo.  They want to be a part of the action.  They don’t like being left out.  People used to ask my mom why she watched so much Sports Center and she would reply “with a house full of boys I don’t like being left out of the conversation.”  That pretty much sums up how cool my mom was in general.

Moms also like controversy.  Controversy can be fun.  I falsely accused my mom when I was 14 years old in a moment of weakness of “shrinking my laundry on purpose”.  Yea I actually said that to her.  She thought I was nuts for sure…and she also thought it was funny.  It made me feel better when I later apologized for “wrongly accusing her”.  She asked me if I knew I was nuts.  I didn’t realize it at 14.

Of all the holidays, Mother’s Day is the best and most important.   Moms matter. A lot. (Remember my blog about birthdays and how we should really be celebrating your mother instead of you?) They do stuff that really amazes me. I can make a list but I won’t.
Actually what the hell, I will.

1.  They tell you what you want to hear, at the exact moment you need to hear it.
2.  When you make big mistakes, they seem to understand the most that we are human.
3.  When good things happen they are by far the most proud.
4.  If things are really messed up and you need help, mom is always the go-to.
5.  If you feel like all is lost, mom will tell you that it’s not…..and somehow she knows the right answer.

My dad used to tell me “if you bring your mother a stick and tell her it’s a gift she will love it”. Mom’s love is probably as unconditional as it gets. She knows your flaws. She defends you to the end. She has your back unwaveringly.

So today is the day to call all moms in the world just to say “you are the bomb” (or whatever cool thing you want to say).

May is a month that moms should be celebrated.  My mom passed away 6 years and 5 days ago…In May.  May is always Mom’s month in my heart.

Hug all moms today.  It’s not the right thing to do, it’s the only thing to do.

D.Hall

 

[Originally posted on May 9, 2016]

And I submit to you on this Sunday………some perspective

This blog is short and sweet.  Cause the content of the video is so powerful.

I’ve been noticing lately how everyone seems to consider their own individual circumstances “so tough”.  The most curious quote I hear now is “I got a lot going on”, as if to imply that ALL THE THINGS these specific people have to deal with in their lives are unimaginable in degree of difficulty.  It’s a mechanism for them to cope with the fact they have trouble managing their own personal lives.   I actually have shifted my attitude about all of this from angry to amused.  I mean, do you really think you have so very much going on than anyone else?  And do you really think this is what Fortune 500 CEO’s tell their Board of Directors when things get rough at home, they have children, or if they purchase a new home?   I don’t think so.

Anyway, back to the story.  This is for all my peeps with the “worst of circumstances” (yes this is sarcasm)…I submit to you, PERSPECTIVE!

Basically the end of the interview goes a little like this…”If I could grant you one wish, would you want to have arms?”

The response given by this kid tells you everything about who he has become in a very short amount of time on this earth. It will blow your mind. And give you some good Sunday morning perspective.

Watched it 5 times and can’t make it through without crying yet.

Let’s all get a grip.

D.Hall
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/teen-who-lost-his-hands-becomes-unlikely-basketball-hero/

My good ole days haven’t happened yet.

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I hear a lot of people talking about what they used to do and referring to their past.  A lot.  It makes me wonder why people don’t focus or talk as much about the future as they do about the past.

I’m not saying to forget about how you got here and forgot all the great memories and milestones of your life. I’m simply saying there’s more ahead!   Lots more.  Your past, your experiences and your choices all brought you to where you are today.  But I hear a lot of people dwelling on the past.  Your “best days are ahead” if you choose to live and think that way.

I remember when I was in my early-mid 20’s (a few years back) and my buddies would talk a lot about the “glory days” of high school.  Why all the focus on the past?  Even today I hear old friends talk about “the good ole’ days” from 10 or 20 years ago.  Are the glory days in your past or in your future…….

Personally I aspire to live my life with an approach that my “best days” are ahead of me.  And from now on, I am re-affirming my commitment to myself to focus 99% of my mental energy on the present, not the past. I heard a Ted Talk a while back that resonated with me and the best line of the whole thing aside from the kickass message, was “Live with your future self in mind.”  Every decision you make, every time you find yourself at a crossroad, every approach and response to situations in life… live with your future self in mind.  Everything we do shapes our future.

Let’s learn from the past, appreciate that it got you to where you are today, and molded who you are today…but try to spend 100 percent (not 99) of our time talking about today and the future.

Our best day is today.  The only thing that could be better than today is tomorrow.  And that isn’t always guaranteed.

All of your thinking is a choice.  If you think your best days are ahead, you’re right.  If you think your best days are over, you’re right.
Your life is your own creation.  You are the director of how you choose to think.

D.Hall

Is this really what we’ve come to as a society? This is embarrassing.

What the hell is wrong with people?  I mean really.  We have kids (KIDS!) playing a game. And here we have adults threatening to kill referees?  I often tell people that there is very little in life you should be “embarrassed about”.  You hit a bad golf shot, who cares.  You called a girl the wrong name on the 2nd date, it happens.  Your potluck didn’t taste very good at the company party, such is life.  Then we look at these Kentucky folks, and it takes embarrassment to a whole new level.

I bet I’m killing you with anticipation and questions, so let’s get into it. Let’s give this story some context on just how bad it is and why I’m so outraged.
First, let’s recall a few other similar stories…

I’ll never forgive the city of Chicago for the deplorable and disgusting behavior towards Steve Bartman when he tried to catch a ball and the city blamed the Cubs’ loss on him.

How about the Boston fans that vilified Bill Buckner when he made an error?  That’s right, he made an error.  And many of the sick lunatics of the general public made it out to seem as if he had committed a felony.  Classy Boston fans at their finest!

But just when I thought that Boston and Chicago had topped the charts with ridiculously silly fans (not all, just those of you that participated in the madness) here comes the worst of them all.   Kentucky “fans”.  And I put it in quotes ‘cause these people need to get a grip. We have kids playing a game they love and these “fans” didn’t like the calls made by the refs.  So what do they do? Threaten to kill referees?  And ruin their businesses?  Seems normal.

Sick, sick, sick people.  Really.  Get a grip and grow up.

And what’s this all about?  It’s all about a frickin’ game.  A game.  Not life or death.  Not my friend with cancer.  Nobody committed a heinous crime against them.  We’re simply talking about a game!

I think if they find the people that are doing this, they should haul their parents into a court or jurisdiction of some sort, and tell them they did a really poor job raising their children…and make them promise to never have any more.  Because if my future children act like this, it will be the low point of my life and I will have failed.

Read on and try to internalize how crazy this is.  I mean this is really, really crazy that grown people act like this.  This 21st century mob mentality social media insanity is for lunatics and we need to realize this is not how we should conduct ourselves as human beings.  If we were animals, maybe.  And I mean maybe.

Let’s get a hold of ourselves people.  These are games played by kids.  Let’s lead by example for a better future, not be an embarrassment to the human race.

D.Hall

Hundreds of Kentucky fans’ threats against ref under investigation-
http://www.thescore.com/news/1272766

Interestingly, I also came across this article that made me think there is hope for humanity!!
http://www.mercurynews.com/2017/04/05/leadership-habits-a-priority-at-sunnyvale-elementary-school/

Listening & Your Intention.

One of the most underrated skills in the world is listening.  Great listeners are hard to find.  Many people don’t listen at all, let alone a little.

I recently discovered one of the secrets to truly great listening.

I am lucky to be involved with a company that is doing extensive amounts of recruiting and hiring and coming across many exceptional people with great ideas.  One of those recruits recently posed a great question when talking about listening and it really resonated with me.  He asked about another person saying “Are they just listening to respond, or are they listening to understand?”

WHOA.

That’s some deep stuff.   “Are they just listening to respond, or are they listening to understand?”  And now that you have read that quote (twice), how many people come to mind (in both categories)?  There’s more in the “listening to respond” category for sure, right?  Most everyone you know?  It’s so tempting to listen to respond but it’s not really where the deep stuff lies.  The high order bit is to listen to understand.  It became very clear to me that it is so common to just be listening to respond.

To be fair, it’s quite hard to listen to understand every single time, but I challenge you to try it, and encourage others to do the same. When I heard this question that was posed, I wondered how many times I’ve failed to be a great listener myself. I’m a busy guy, it happens…but we’re all busy (blog on this coming). I actually took pause to think about it. It’s an ugly trait to be a listener who fails to understand ever. So don’t be one.

Listen to understand.

What a difference.  And what a tip.

Incorporate it into your arsenal today.  Will make you better for sure.

D.Hall

I’m working on getting people to make the switch

Attention all people in their 20s…no forget that…attention everyone.  I have some really great info you will like.  So let’s set it up.

As I started the year, I spent a lot of time thinking about my own standard of excellence.  And my man Nick Saban had described in an interview that he thought one of the distinguishing factors of Alabama’s consistency in football…..was the very HIGH STANDARD of excellence that they hold themselves to.  Really got me thinking.   I needed to raise mine.  In everything I do.  Think about it.  It becomes a total COMPETITIVE ADVANTAGE to raise your own STANDARD of good (if you are willing to be patient as you work your ass off to get there).  It separates you from the competition if you are really looking to succeed in whatever floats your boat.  It creates a gap for you vs. others trying to do same.  It becomes a bigger marker you are chasing.  Having a HIGH HIGH standard of excellence creates separation.  This is THE GAP.  It’s especially important if you want to do big things.

Blend with that a new concept I have been thinking a lot about.    You don’t do big things by falling in love with the RESULT of what success will get you.  Yea we all like to watch the Kardashian’s and look at this bullshit on Instagram of flashy cars, big money, people acting and seeming like they have more than they do etc etc…….but that’s a false reality and that focus creates a distortion of what’s critical to get wherever you want to go.  You wanna be rich?  You want to shoot lower golf scores?  You want to be a great parent?  Maybe you want to build a big ass business?   The real way to achieve big things………fall in love with THE PROCESS to get there.   The long, arduous painful process.   The battle-scars, the messy truth, the hours on the putting green……..think about it.  If you fall in love with buying discount clothes on the way to your dream, if you fall in love with piling 4 people into a one person office on your way to doing big things…….then you are on to something.  Put the mile markers way out in the future.  And fall in love with what no one wants to focus on ……….the very difficult and long process to get there.

SPECIAL NOTE:  Now for the purposes of this week’s blog we are going to define “being successful” as doing something extraordinary that most don’t or can’t do.  Yes there are lots of ways to “succeed” but for this week we are talking about people with big dreams that are extraordinary……ok let’s carry on.

Most people quit on their way to their dreams.  And they quit because they don’t fall in love with how tough it is.  Hitting dreams and goals is tough.  You can have people fool you and tell you it’s not, but it is.  Most people aren’t willing to put in what it takes because they don’t tell themselves the truth about what it really is.   And they chase results.   Don’t chase the results.  Fall in love with the set backs.  Fall in love with all the crap you gotta do to “get there”.  Make it fun.  Cause there is no bigger differentiator I have ever heard of than a person that “likes some aggravation”.  Don’t fall in love with the riches you want 24 months from now cause I’ve never known anyone that got anything worthwhile in that short of a period of time.   It doesn’t happen that way.

It’s very clear that what you focus on is critical to your overall success.  The guy who is constantly frustrated with what it takes to “get there”, is never gonna “get there”.  The gal who focuses on all the things her friends have that she doesn’t, doesn’t get it.

Spend all your waking hours falling in love with the process of being successful, and you will have successfully made “the switch”.

Most “successful people” I know, loved the grind of getting there.   They were workers with a future goal in mind but “what they were gonna get” wasn’t what they were focused on.  They were focused on “what they needed to do to get there”.

In my experience, those that don’t hit their full potential, don’t want it to be what it is.  The fact is that “being successful” in an unusual way is really hard.  And you have to have patience and work really hard to get there.    Have patience for the results and go hard after what you want.  And love the journey.

Make the switch.  You’ll be glad you did

D.Hall

“How” and “Why” you can get out of the 80 and into the 20….4 secrets. 

There is a rule in life often talked about in business and sales…….you get 80 percent of your production from the top 20 percent of your peeps…….and that’s usually the case in a lot of organizations…..and then it just sort of gets left at that……..so how and why can you get to be in the 20……and stay out of the other 80? Let’s discuss. 

Secret #1 of how to get to that 20. Love and enjoy getting treated like the 80 on the way to the 20…….confusing? Sort of, so let’s back up………most of us don’t just walk in and say “hey mother f****rs, I’m one of the 20”. You have to prove yourself and earn it on the way, and sometimes it takes a lot LONGER than we want. That’s how it goes. Embrace it. Love being underpaid and proving people wrong and all that goes with it.
You see, everyone in life is good with “Hey, if you pay me like a top guy, I’ll be a top guy”…….and it’s SO WHACKED OUT that people think this way. Our Chatter unscientific study tells us 91% of humans think this way. And it destroys them. It could destroy you, or your younger siblings……or your kids. The mentality you want are the people who respond with “I already work that hard.”  

 

I’m here to attempt to CHANGE THE STINKIN THINKIN OF THE WORLD………So say it with me……….”Pay me like shit and I’ll work like I make a million bucks”………say it again………and keep saying it……..cause not only will it help you but it’s going to be my future child from my future wife’s FIRST STRING OF WORDS THEY WILL SAY IN A SENTENCE. It’s all about work ethic. 
It’s kind of crazy that people are WAITING for someone to do something before THEY do anything. Does somebody give you a raise saying “We hope you’ll start to do a better job, here you go!” No! They say “Thanks for all you’ve DONE! Great job!” Case in point of what we say all the time here at Chatter…Waiting is NOT a good strategy. You have to make things happen.
So why are so many people missing this? Why are there 80 in the 80? Why can’t 80 become the MAJORITY of the productive workforce? I think it’s because their thinking is confused. And that’s secret #2 – confused thinking.
So are we just feeling like we’ve been wronged? Are we bitter? Or maybe…just maybe, we want to join the 20 but we aren’t inspired. Or don’t know we are missing out, because it’s WAY more rewarding to be in the 20 than the 80.
Well here is secret #3……if you aren’t making 20% more this year than you did last year and you aren’t told on a WEEKLY basis that you kick ass……….you are in the 80……….and you need to up your value. But don’t worry, there’s hope for you!! Are you ready to cast aside old ideas? And accept new ones?  
So, can you recognize all of the above, start to work harder, get in to work earlier, get more curious about everything, stay later, and maybe go in on Saturday to see what’s happening? Is it just that simple? No. What is simple…secret #4 on the way…what is simple is working the way you would if you got a $100,000 raise tomorrow. Yea, work like that. 
Not into all that? Then just be one of the 80…….and think through what could have been and sip that beer next Saturday at noon…and bitch about what you could be or would have been if someone had paid you more first……and then ask yourself if that’s how it works (it’s not)…..while the 20 are going next level and kicking your ass. 
Thanks to all of you that are waiting and bitching for inspiring me this week. I love you all.
D.Hall

4am is a good time to start. 

If you’ve read our stuff before, you’ve probably picked up on some common themes……. “work harder than the guy next to you”, “get at it when everyone else is sleeping” and “give what the greedy man won’t and you’ll get what the greedy man wants”. I think we’ve made it clear this is important. Very. 

And then here we go. Another illustration……the hits just keep on comin’ (makes us feel like we might be on to something here).

 

And I submit to the court – KOBE BRYANT……. who in the offseason goes to a scrimmage 7 hours early to practice…..that is correct…..not 20 minutes, not an hour…….7 hours!!……and works overnight essentially to make 800 shots (a goal he set for himself) and holding himself accountable to not giving up until it’s done. Not too shabby.

 

So this week we will keep it short. Below is the link to an article on Kobe and his unrelenting drive for success. I think it’s convenient for us to want to believe people like Kobe just had more talent. Read this and you’ll quickly figure out that probably wasn’t the case. He was willing to work harder than most. That’s why he is Kobe. 

 

I’m not a fan of Kobe, but after reading this, I’m definitely a fan of his work ethic.

 

Have a great and productive Super Bowl Sunday!
DHall
http://www.businessinsider.com/kobe-bryant-woke-up-at-4-am-to-practice-before-olympics-2013-3

Leaders & PACE.

top leaders

More than anything else, great leaders bring high paced energy every day.   They set the tone.  They create the environment in which the entire team works.  You can feel the energy and the sense of urgency they create, and the really good ones combine this “energy” into the following………….

The pace that they speak.

The pace that they walk.

The pace that they lead and direct conversations.

The pace that they try to speed others up.

The pace that they move to and from meetings.

The pace that they move hard against mediocrity.

The pace that they get to the bottom of what is going on and don’t accept staying on the surface.

THE PACE IN EVERYTHING THEY DO!

Cause a great leader in my view, more than anything else………sets the pace.  They are battery chargers.  They “bring it” and make those around them excited to push forward….every day.  Not some days.  Not when they feel like it.  Every single day……..and on weekends too. AND they surround themselves with people who want to move at that pace as well.  And then they make them better.  (Remember the “who you surround yourself with” blog?)

A great leader lives the saying “it’s better to be moving than stagnant”, and they are moving at a high pace and pushing others to do the same….and succeeding.

It’s not a “sometimes thing” to be a great leader.  It’s an ALL THE TIME THING.

Good leader, different story.  I’m talking GREAT LEADER.

P.S- The picture above is from a great article out of Harvard Business Review magazine, which really illustrates and supports the Chatter team’s view on the impact fast paced leaders have on a business. Check it out!

D.Hall

My man Nick Saban is at it again.

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Just when I thought he had impressed me to the max and couldn’t do more…….he tells his Offensive Coordinator to take a hike 7 days before the biggest game of his team’s season.  Yep, Coach Saban made a stand.  No one really knows what went on behind the scenes but it was clearly ugly.  Not sure there has ever been a dismissal of a more important figure prior to a Championship game in the history of football ever.

Let’s be honest……how many of you would be willing to get rid of the most talented person on your staff/team/organization 7 days before the biggest test/presentation/game/exam of your year?  The answer is 0.  ZERO.  No one would.  That’s why it’s so great.

So it was sort of interesting when Coach Saban came on SportsCener/Game Day January 2 and told the nation it was a “mutual decision”.   Was he kidding us?   Anyone believe that?    No one at Chatter did.  Not even close.

Not very hard to deduce that Coach Saban was not happy with the lackluster performance of his offense in their 24-7 less than compelling victory over Washington…..and when he let that be known…….some stuff must have hit the fan hard.  Real hard.

It will be so interesting to see how they play tomorrow night.  National Championship game in prime time and the coach that has been coaching the offense all year won’t be there.  Can Coach Saban rally the troops and can the new back up guy step in and not miss a beat?  Will be fascinating to see.  It’s the ultimate in reality TV.

So what’s the lesson this week?  Well, we got a few………….

1.  Have the guts to do what’s hard.
2.  When you’ve won uber amounts of championships, people won’t question you.  Getting to that point is really hard.  Most aren’t there or ever will be.
3.  If Nick were a rookie coach, everyone in the world would be thinking this guy was nuts and this move could cost him his job.

Sometimes where you stand, depends on where you sit.  And Nick Saban sits very comfortably.

Roll Tide.

D.Hall